As you sit down with your loved one to plan your dream day, you may begin to wonder about why you do certain wedding traditions. From vows to parties to favors, there are a lot of wedding day traditions that most people partake in without every question of how that certain activity became popular. While it’s easy to brush most things off as ‘we do them just because’ certain things, such as gifting and wearing wedding bands, have a deep history.

If you’re tying the knot soon, you may be wondering how you can make your wedding special. While decorations and favors can make a wedding interesting, sometimes you just want to create a personal, intimate moment with the love of your life. One of the best ways to do this is to write your own wedding vows.

Writing your own vows can be a daunting task, however, especially if you’re less than confident about your writing skills. To help you prepare for your big day, here is a step by step guide to writing your own wedding vows.